Parenting in the 21st century

I WANT independence and my own car so i can drive myself to the parties. I hate that the few times i ask my parents for permission and for a ride they say no. What do they want from ME? Forcing me to mature at a very young age in order to do THEIR job wasn't enough? What else do they want? I have had good grades since preschool; never really ask them for permission to parties unless they were from really close friends, which are few.


So, I ask you people: "What is the secret to get their approval, their permission? How come there are many young adults that are forced to live like they're little children, always looking for a tiny bit of freedom that they'll never get. Why have we become so dependent of our parents? In the past generations, people our age were independent, married and working to create the big happy family that they dreamed of. Nowadays you see our generation partying, drinking, and getting married, but not because they want to, but because they have to. That's the reason why the divorce rate has increased. They get married because they got pregnant and they are told that’s the right thing to do, but a month later they realize that they don't love each other, or that it’s too much for them.

Parents are not preparing their children for life; they aren’t teaching them what’s out there in the world. And why is that; because they spend most of their time working to make money. Money for what I ask? Do they think money can buy happiness, because if it does then many people I know, have taught me wrong. If money could buy happiness we wouldn’t see so many rich kids, bullying at schools, breaking the law in order to get a little bit of attention from their parents. Because that’s all they want: “the attention that they never got from their parents when they were little”. Most parents may justify themselves by saying that they were working to give their families a better life. But that’s no excuse!! They should have been there for them at least in their first twelve years that is when they acquire their way of thinking and when they learn the value of life. Where were their parents when they needed to talk to them: possibly, at work. Who would have imagined that we would have to make an appointment to see our parents, because they only had time for their work? How far has this gone? And how far will it keep going?

Depressed and Anxious

Some days when I wake up I just feel like there's something wrong or missing in my life, but I can't figure out what it is. This makes me sad and anxious. Unconsciously I started eating every time I felt this way. When I noticed the extra pounds that I was gaining, I changed from sweets, to vegetables and fruits. But I continued eating, even if I wasn’t hungry. I tried to diminish the food I ate. I ended biting my nails instead, to replace what I wasn’t having. It was more like a necessity to have something in my mouth, than to really needing the food. I remember that when I was in high school I used to chew the top of my pens, because I couldn’t eat in class. I destroyed so many pens, and I still do. This year I began chewing gum to stop me from eating my nails or pens, but it is “impossible”.

Now that I’m a little bit older, I started to realize that my anxiety was caused by the constant fighting of my parents in front of me and the many threats of my mother of getting a divorce. Luckily they continue together, but they keep fighting, although they do it with less frequency. They always fight over money not being enough for paying the school for my sisters, and my college career (Med-School is not cheap. Even though I got like a discount, it continues to be expensive), and also over them not being able to be at home to help my sisters with their homework. That’s where the other reason for me being depressed and anxious comes from.

They’re pressuring me to come back early from class to be here with my sisters. And I’m always telling them that that’s not my problem those aren’t my kids, and that I don’t have time. Med-School requires a lot of time and commitment. And also my sisters have learned a lot of my parents. They’re constantly fighting and yelling at each other which gets annoying within a few minutes. The worst part is that my parents spoiled them, and they won’t listen to anyone, not even to my parents. So whenever I try to tell them to stop yelling and fighting, they’ll just ignore me. (“THAT’S A VERY GOOD REASON FOR NOT WANTING TO HAVE KIDS”)

Another reason is their constant disappointment at everything that I have ever done. Nothing is good enough for them. I was the best student of my high school, and just because I had 1 B they were like I’ve never had a B in my life I was straight A’s. And I just hate that they’re comparing me. “I am me, I’m not them” what part of it they don’t get?
That stuff created in my mind a negative thinking about me. Now everything I do is never enough for me. And that makes me feel even worse.

I was considering changing my career because my real passions are music and acting. But here in Ecuador acting and music sucks. Since I lost my visa I can’t go to the U.S.A. and study, which was kind of my goal. Also I feel like I will disappoint my grandfather if I drop out of med-school, because I’m the first in the family to study the same that he did. None of his 6 children studied medicine and when I told him that I wanted to study medicine he felt really excited and proud of me and that made me feel great. Now that I’ve finished my first year of med-school I realize that I like music and acting much more than medicine and I was thinking of dropping out but every time I’m going to do it I remember my grandpa and back out. I’ve always been his favorite grandchild so I don’t want to disappoint him. So I was considering finishing med-school and then study arts. That probably be in about 10 years, but I still have plenty of time, since I’m only 19.

PS: Sorry for writing this much I just let it all out without even noticing how much I was writing. Thanks for your patience.

5 Elements of Hip - Hop

1. Djing
2. B-boying / Breakdancing
3. Beat Boxing / Mcing
4. Graffiti
5. Micro-economics
   

Essay

Healthiness and happiness are very difficult things to obtain. In order to have them both you must do very specific things in your life. One of them is eating healthy food. This means to stop esting junk food just because you are so lazy to cook your own food. The other one is to stop believing in what other people say about money being the key to happiness, because it is not only a big lie but also is completely wrong. Even though money can get you all kinds of things like cars, vacations, etc., it will never buy you the things that really matter like friends, family and emotional stability.

Some people say that exercising and having time to relax are good ways to maintain a certain balance in your life, and they are completely right. Exercising will keep you in good shape anf¡d that will make you feel happy about yourself. Relaxing will help you eliminate stress from your body and willl keep you in an emotional stability. But not all the ways of relaxing will help you. If you think that drinking a glass of wine will help you relax, you´re completely wrong. It will help you at first, but you´ll start with one glass, then with two, three, untill you end up drinking the whole bottle. Eventually this will transform into a bad habit, leading you to alcoholism, because you won´t be able to relax without drinking.

In what ways you are:

Unique: i don't follow any fashion
Original: i try to do what i imagine not to copy
Genuine: because im the only one that can be myself
Creative: i do oil painting, and i try to do whatever comes to my mind.

Atttude - Attention

Attitude: the way you act or behave toward things
Attention: the interest we put into something

Hemi - sync

1. To create your day, you have to believe in yourself
2. Put all the information into your life
3. Create signs to remind yourself that you`re special
4. Make a connection between the mind and the body
5. The world is like a machine with laws and principles, all predictable
6. Religion: always mind never matter
7. Science: always matter never mind.
8. Newton: "I can prove that everything is predictable"
9. To predict, we only need to know the direction and the velocity of the thing we`re making our prediction.
10. Einstein: "Nothing can go faster than the speed of light".
11. Einstein questioned himself everyday about what would happen if he rode his bicycle at the speed of light and turned the headlights on...will they really turn on?
12. An electron in a metal piece released energy then stopped then took the same energy and released it again and so on.
13. Everybody has an effect in the subatomic world.
14. Your obsevation matters in the nature reality.
15. Your mind and your thoughts have a direct effect on your life.
16. We can improve our skill of observation.
17. Reality is your life.
18. What separates us from the other species of the planet is our frontal lobe.
19. The frontal lobe is in charge of perception, focus and thoughts.
20. It also allows us to make our thoughts real.
21. The problem is that we only focus on our problems.
22. We need to master observation.
23. We need to focus on our good thoughts too.
24. Human beings lose attention around six times a minute.
25. A group of people volunteered to get their brains scanned while they focused about something specific.
26. When they focused on compassion, frontal lobe lighted up.
27. When they focused on their problems, the light went down.
28. We can improved our concentration.
29. The brain is the instrument that we use to process thoughts.
30. Mind is what we study when we study the brain at work.
31. Conciousness is our selfaware.
32. Conciousness is what manipulates the brain to produce the mind.
33. The brain processes 4 billion bits of information, and we are only aware of 2000.
34. People who suffered uncurable illnesses, started to get better whe they used this method.
35. Everyone accepted there was an intelligence within now.
36. Intelligence keeps an order in the world.
37. A DNA stripe is six feet long.
38. My attitude created my health condition.
39. Everytime you have a thought you make a chemical.
40. If you think about things that make you happy you make chemicals that will make you happy. On the contrary, if you think about things that make you feel bad, you`re going to make chemicals that will make you feel bad.
41. Mind is inmune in the body when your feelings make your thinking.
42. It should be the mind making your body obey.
43. You`ve got to ask yourself questions.
44. The frontal lobe is the one that makes you explore the "what ifs".
45. We taught the technique to a group of people who never played the piano. They were told to practice a scale mentally. When they got their brains scanned, they lit up in the same places that the ones on the group that practiced physically.
46. They were so involved that they lost track of time.
47. When we capture a thought in the frontal lobe, the rest would keep up to that thought.
48. The frontal lobe is the director of the rest of the brain.
49. Monett spend 44 years of his life teaching himself how to see things different, and captured the way he saw the world in his paintings.
50. At the third month of life, neurons are created.
    
51. At the sixth month connections between the neurons start to appear.
52. Two brains look similar when you look at them, but the connections that we have made between the neurons, make the fingerprints of our brain.
53. 50% is what we inherited
54. The other 50% we have to make it by making connections.
55. Experience is one way to make connections.
56. If you keep your mind in the same emotions, we re-live the same things that happened at the past, so our future is going to be the same that our past.
57. Human beings think that what happens outside the mind is more real than what the mind really is.
58. If the body is used to some state of mind, when you think different your body is going to make you think the way you used to.
59. Experience is limited by the knowledge.
60. The only reason to be alive is to learn something new.
61. Human beings can change in a year because of the size of the frontal lobe.
62. The brain only exists in two states:
    -Survival (responding to the environment so much that it starts creating our reality)
    -Creation (learning, experiencing)
63. Americans don´t get what they focus on because of their arrogance.
64. Fall in love with an abstraction, and that abstracion will become your future.
65. We live the majority of our life in an unconcious state.
66. Brain fills in reality based on the memory.
67. Example: Frogs brains are wired to only see tiny objects moving (Flies).
68. Learning is like glue that causes neurons to sprout and develop connections.
69. Nerve cells that fire together wire together.
70. We become limited by our beliefs.
71. Test: think about a time when you were mad, and then think stop being mad.
72. A rush of chemistry gives the body awareness.
73. Every person in our lifes represents our neurological networks.
74. The only way to overcome emotions and feelings is to create new ones.
75. Does your mind gives you life?
76. Believe that you can do it.
77. If you have an experience once, you should be able to repeat it.
78. Declared memories:
    -Knowledge
    -Experience
79. Non-declared memories:
    -skills
    -habits
    -conditionings
    -trades
    -human behaviors
80. Alzheimer patients can't remember several things, but if you give them something like knitting needles, they'll start knitting.
81. We should repeat experiences to make them become our second nature (automatic).
82. Who are we going to rehearse to be every morning?